Much Too Much: Are Options Ruining Our Lives? A personal investigation into the psychology of choice in the age of endless options and always-on living. By Tara Bouley (originally posted on Medium) I pose the question because I’m worried. About myself. About the rest of us. About these kids growing up in the ubiquity of option. While the prevailing assumption is that options are good, I am starting question this wisdom because it genuinely feels

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New York is an artifact. A thing that humans move around on. New York, a romanticized idea to most, is simply layers. Layers upon layers of invented and reinvented, imagined and reimagined manifestations of human intention and necessity. It’s simply a very old and very storied clusterfuck. New York is a cat. You mine what you need from it’s gaze, day after day. New York remains nonplussed by you. New York doesn’t even consider you.

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For unless one is able to live fully in the present, the future is a hoax. There is no point whatever in making plans for a future which you will never be able to enjoy. When your plans mature, you will still be living for some other future beyond. You will never, never be able to sit back with full contentment and say, “Now, I’ve arrived!” Your entire education has deprived you of this capacity

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My mom is a really good person. Like, to the core. She taught me not to judge and not to assume and to be giving but to also be true to yourself. To be loyal, to be reliable, to stick with things. She doesn't lie or speak bad of people. She would never backstab someone to get ahead. She would never sacrifice relationships for success. This approach to life has done her right. She’s happy.

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I hate calling people. I thought I hated talking on the phone; but among many revelations I’m having lately (Is there something like the opposite of Mercury in retrograde?), I realized that the *idea* of calling people is what I find unpleasant. Throughout the day, I find myself with thoughts I want to ‘share.’  But I can’t call anyone because of (fill in the blank) perceived inconvenience of  work hours/time difference/dinner time/too late. So I don’t. I

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  "A man who procrastinates in his CHOOSING will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance. So if you now number yourself among the disenchanted, then you have no choice but to accept things as they are, or to seriously seek something else. But beware of looking for goals: look for a way of life. Decide how you want to live and then see what you can do to make a living WITHIN

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